Hey Friends :) The FUN hair is back. It’s one of my favorite shades of color my hair has been over the years and I’ve missed it.
My Fun Hair got lost on this journey of life and i’m so glad it’s back because it brings true JOY but it’s just…… FUN.
Let me let you in on how it got lost and what it’s got to do with healing and preventing burn out.
I’ve been on a journey. A journey towards self discovery. A new level of healing.
More layers of the onion to peel off to heal.
I felt this beckoning and this quiet whisper towards inner healing for 2024 in late 2023. (Honestly it was more for help with my business and I know as I personally develop, in turn I develop in my business)
I was led towards a particular coach that I’ve met a few times, listened to her podcast, and was in networking groups with. I wasn’t planning on signing up for coaching in 2024 and yet here I was contemplating in late 2023 towards a desire to have my business aligned with my soul.. more and more.
I desired to have my business run from a place of peace within than from a place of frenzy that it got to. I was feeling the cinges of burn out and was going to nip it in the bud by taking care of myself in this way…. little did I know the deep dive that would ensue to uncover layers that I didn’t even know was there or that I stuffed away so far into the back corner of the closet of my heart and mind, I was unaware…. [Another story for another time.]
What I am learning is that my truest self operates from connection to my soul/spirit and with God. When I can operate from this place, then my truest self comes out and joy bubbles to the surface organically and in a way that sustains. In turn, keeps the fire of burn out at bay.
When I can operate from my truest self, then burn out continues to be eliminated and I am not worried about what other people think. It’s not that I ‘don’t care’ about people, it’s that I’m not letting other people’s opinions dictate how I do life and business.
Thus, the FUN HAIR. Fun hair colors has been… me. A way to express myself & to put some fun into my life… and back in the day, a way for my sister to experiment in hair school (HAHA!) I believe it’s the truest form of me…. plus getting you hair done is a form of self care…. so it’s also a way of taking care of myself.
Let me spill the tea.🍵
What had happened was…..
There was a comment made about my hair early on in my coaching business learning and development. Something about possibly not being seen as a professional.. blah blah. [the truth is i’ve been practicing as a therapist with fun hair for YEARS & a lot of my clients enjoyed it] This little comment, unknowingly grew inside of my heart and mind… PLUS I was doing new things and when I do new things… old insecurities can rise up about how I show up and what will people think, etc etc.
So I was feeling a bit shaky in those moments, unsure about a lot of things but having a lot of courage in doing something new.
I unknowingly faded into making decisions based on someone else and before I knew it, the fun hair was gone. I was giving my hair a ‘rest’ (which is partly true but I know now the underlying reason was because of this one comment).
Little did I know that “taking a break” from fun hair was people pleasing.
It’s funny how something so small as a passing comment can grow into changing behaviors and how we show up in the world. (Right? right..)
So, what does all this have to do with BURN OUT?
Everything. We do not operate as our truest selves when we are people pleasing. We are living based on other people’s expectations; what they want our lives to look like. This causes us to be more tired, stress, and overwhelmed because we are living in a frantic frenzy chasing the acceptance of others than trusting ourselves. This, my friend, is the slippery slope to burn out.
It’s time. Give yourself permission to make a change to lead yourself away from burn out. Remember, high achiever, 1% at a time… Whether that’s fun hair, a slow morning, or setting boundaries- find freedom in BEING yourself.
♥️
Tiffany